Are You Ready To Walk Down The Aisle?

Marriage is the triumph of hope over experience – Samuel Johnson
Good news for women: experts predict that at least 4 out of 5 women in today's generation will eventually get married. Statistics from the National Marriage Project show that more than 90 percent of women from every generation in the records have gotten hitched.

On the downside, data from the National Center for Health Statistics show that 50 percent of all marriages in which the brides are 25 or older end up in divorce for various reasons. It seems risky to get married because of the high divorce rate. But marriage has always been a risk since you don’t know how well you’ll get along with someone under the same roof regardless of how long you’ve known one another.

There is no foolproof way to find out if you’re ready to get married or not. What you can do is find out how well you really know your partner before you take your relationship to the next level and get engaged.

Here are some issues to reflect on:

Beliefs and Values

• Do you and your partner have the same religious and political affiliation? If not, do you accept, respect and support each other's spiritual and political beliefs?
• Do you value similar things like eating meals together?
• Does your partner do things that you don't approve of, such as smoking and drinking alcohol or vice versa?
• Can you put up with your partner’s idiosyncrasies?
• Do the two of you have the same views when it comes to sex? (How often? Can you talk openly about it? Are you both satisfied?)
• How do you handle disagreements as a couple?

Personal Lives

• Are you aware of your partner’s medical history? (Things to consider are sexually transmitted diseases, chronic illness, history of illness in the family, special needs, etc.)
• Has your partner ever been accused of a crime or jailed?
• How was your partner's childhood like?
• How do you spend your free time? Do you spend it with friends or do you prefer some “alone time”?
• What are your partner's hobbies and passions? Do you understand and support them? Is he or she supportive of yours?
• Is your partner open to discussing past relationships? Will you be comfortable with the information he or she reveals?
• VERY IMPORTANT: Do you get along with your partner's parents?

Finances and Career

• What is your partner's financial situation, including outstanding debt, credit score, etc.? (Once married, you will make financial decisions together)
• Will both of you work?
• Are you satisfied with your partner's ambition when it comes to work?
• How many hours do you think should be devoted to work each week? How much time will you spend together?
• How will you spend your total income? How much will you set aside for savings? Do you think you’ll agree on what to spend on, like vacations, cars, clothing and education of children?
• Who will be in charge of your finances, like investments, balancing the checkbook, paying bills and taxes? Are you open to sharing the responsibilities?

Home and Family Life

• Do you plan to buy a house and when?
• Where do you plan to live? Are you open to relocating?
• Do you plan to have children?
• Do you agree on how many children you plan to have?
• Who will stay home to take care of the kids?
• Are you open to having any stepchildren around, if there are any?
• How will you divide the household chores like cooking, shopping for groceries and doing laundry?
• How will the in-laws fit in with your family life?
• Do you plan to have pets?
• Do you agree on where to send the children for schooling?
  

Marriage is one of the most beautiful things you can experience. Picking the right partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. Your future depends on your choice so don’t take the plunge unless you’re absolutely at peace with your decision.

Why Men or Women Cheat?

Have you ever cheated or thought about it? Or do you know somebody who cheated or been cheated?

Cheating is usually a sign of unhealthy relationship. And unfortunately cheating is now widespread. According to Susan Sheppard, cheating or infidelity affects 8 out of 10 marriages in the US. But what can be the reason for cheating? Are there hopes for relationship after cheating?

Experts say that reasons for cheating have evolved. Before traditional reasons for cheating for men are sexual desires but now more men are having emotional affair. On the other hand, from the unhappy relationships some women are now having sexual affairs.

Reasons for cheating vary from one person to another. But here are some common reasons why men or women cheat in general.

• Emotional and Physical Needs
Emotional and physical attractions are important. There are times that when one partner needs to feel wanted, cared and understand emotionally and satisfied with their physical needs. And when this things are starting to be left out, sometimes infidelity stats to come in.


• Constant Relationship Conflict
This is one of the common reasons for cheating. When a relationship is plagued with unhealthy fights and arguments, a person may seek for affection and attention from other person whom he/she feels to understand more.


• Empowerment
Sometimes the need to feel that you can do things can also lead to cheating.


• To end a Relationship
There are times when a person is in a bad relationship but having a hard time to break up with their mate, they tend to cheat and let their partners know it thinking that it is much easier to end a relationship.

A person has many reasons why they cheat but there is no right reason for cheating. It doesn’t matter why you cheat, what matters is that you did it and at some point you’re hurting somebody. There is still hope after one partner has cheated in a relationship. As long as they are still will to accept each other and start things all over again and never don’t cheat again.

How to have Open Communication with your Teens

Teenage years from 13 – 19 years are considered one of the challenging years in a parent – child relationship. Parents and teenagers are having a hard time to catch with their generation gap and sometimes come to the point having a hard time communicating with each other. It is a phase wherein teens start to develop their sense of identity and that is the reason why they need more guidance.

Studies have shown that lack parental guidance and support may lead to unwanted behavior among teenagers like drinking, drugs, and having unprotected sex. And with this parents should have an open communication with their teenagers even though it can be a real struggle.

Here are some tips how you can keep communication lines open with your teenagers:

• Asked questions and be “askable” yourself
• Create a good, casual and interesting communication with your teens. Asked them about what happen at school, things that they do during the day. And let them feel that they can also ask you question even the sensitive ones.
• Take your cue from your teenager - there's absolutely no point saying you want to talk, when he's rushing to get ready for a night out.
• Try to spend time alone with your teenager and go out somewhere if there aren't any opportunities at home.
• Treat your teenager with respect, much as you would another adult.
• Don't overreact or fly off the handle if you don't like what you hear
• Don't score points - like all of us, teenagers don't like being put down.
• Don't try to impose your ideas - he'll inevitably reject what you have to offer.
• Never put him down for his views or ideas; he needs your approval
• Share information about what's going on in your life, but only for as long as your teen seems interested.
• It's better to negotiate a solution than enforce your demands, so don't say, "I want your room cleaned up tonight," but "I'm getting really upset at the state of your room. When do you think you can tidy it up?"

Keys to a Better Married Life

Almost all of us dreamed of getting married and to be united with an individual. Reasons of getting married vary in every individual, some for legal, social and/or financial stability, to have their own family and/or public declaration of love. But generally marriage is considered as an institution in which interpersonal relationship are acknowledged.

Married life is a new phase for two individual and a good relationship with your partner is needed to make it work. Unfortunately because of different factors the number of separated or divorce couples increases. Common arguments of married couples are about money, sex, work, children and housework. They should know how to appreciate their good times together and to face the challenges during bad times. Studies said that married couples who expresses their feelings to their partner even if it is anger or frustrations tend to have a longer married life together. It said that in every relationship specifically in married couples open communication is essential.

Here are the top ten ways to keep a strong marriage according to SIXWISE.COM free relationship advice:

1. Always show affection. Simple gestures of affection like kiss on the cheeks or a “thank you” can keep the spark as a couple.


2. Keep arguments respectful. Arguments are good as long as it is constructive and you are fair.


3. Keep an open communication. Along with arguing respectfully, it's important to communicate respectfully. By sharing your thoughts, concerns and ideas regularly, you create an open environment of trust and intimacy.


4. Be nice to your partner or spouse. Happy couples go out of their way to do nice things for their partner on a regular basis, which will keep the overall marriage positive, rather than negative.


5. Choose your battles. There are arguments that are considered petty things, unsolvable and not worth it to get upset with and therefore not worth an argument.


6. Do fun things together.


7. Laugh together. Make an effort to find some humor -- especially if things are tense -- to keep things positive.


8. Always show respect. Strong marriages are built on mutual respect.


9. Do things YOUR way. Here "your" refers to you and your spouse. It's important that together you establish your own traditions, daily rituals and methods for raising your children, taking care of finances, etc. If there is a meddling in-law, sibling or friend who is allowed to interfere, it will undermine the idea of YOUR marriage.


10. Be empathetic. Make an effort to understand your spouse, hear their concerns, and share their excitement.