Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Keys to a Better Married Life

Almost all of us dreamed of getting married and to be united with an individual. Reasons of getting married vary in every individual, some for legal, social and/or financial stability, to have their own family and/or public declaration of love. But generally marriage is considered as an institution in which interpersonal relationship are acknowledged.

Married life is a new phase for two individual and a good relationship with your partner is needed to make it work. Unfortunately because of different factors the number of separated or divorce couples increases. Common arguments of married couples are about money, sex, work, children and housework. They should know how to appreciate their good times together and to face the challenges during bad times. Studies said that married couples who expresses their feelings to their partner even if it is anger or frustrations tend to have a longer married life together. It said that in every relationship specifically in married couples open communication is essential.

Here are the top ten ways to keep a strong marriage according to SIXWISE.COM free relationship advice:

  1. Always show affection. Simple gestures of affection like kiss on the cheeks or a “thank you” can keep the spark as a couple.

  2. Keep arguments respectful. Arguments are good as long as it is constructive and you are fair.

  3. Keep an open communication. Along with arguing respectfully, it's important to communicate respectfully. By sharing your thoughts, concerns and ideas regularly, you create an open environment of trust and intimacy.

  4. Be nice to your partner or spouse. Happy couples go out of their way to do nice things for their partner on a regular basis, which will keep the overall marriage positive, rather than negative.

  5. Choose your battles. There are arguments that are considered petty things, unsolvable and not worth it to get upset with and therefore not worth an argument.

  6. Do fun things together.

  7. Laugh together. Make an effort to find some humor -- especially if things are tense -- to keep things positive.

  8. Always show respect. Strong marriages are built on mutual respect.

  9. Do things YOUR way. Here "your" refers to you and your spouse. It's important that together you establish your own traditions, daily rituals and methods for raising your children, taking care of finances, etc. If there is a meddling in-law, sibling or friend who is allowed to interfere, it will undermine the idea of YOUR marriage.

  10. Be empathetic. Make an effort to understand your spouse, hear their concerns, and share their excitement.

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